Our nervous systems have been shaped by millions of years of evolution to survive by seeking pleasure and avoiding danger/pain. Our decisions about what to approach, and what be cautious about in life are also shaped by our individual developmental experiences.
Fortunately, human behavior is not limited to a repetoire based exclusively on our genetic inheritance and our personal conditioning.
We have the ability to rise above our instincts and our conditioning with awareness and intention.
We have the ability to consciously choose our direction in life, and to establish patterns of thinking-feeling-behaving that are aligned with our core values and long-term goals.
If we don’t take control of this process – if we don’t consciously guide ourselves along a path toward health, fulfillment and success in life – then our old instinctual and conditioned habitual inclinations will tend to unconsciously steer our life, by default, back toward old aims of “safety” based on fears that may no longer be relevant.
It’s OK to take control of our lives.
It’s OK to reassess our current circumstances and resources at every juncture along the way, and then to relaunch – again and again – toward higher aspirations.
It’s OK to consciously decide what to aim for, what we will allow to claim our attention, and where we will apply our life’s energy.
This, too, is a part of our human inheritance.